Affirmations part 1: What is an affirmation and types of affirmations
Affirmations part 2: Positive affirmation and a case study
Affirmations part 3: Why positive affirmations do not always work as expected
How to write your affirmation correctly
Affirmations are designed to help us re-program our thought patterns, the intention being that harmful underlying beliefs are replaced with healing beliefs, and thus removing barriers to healing.
The rules of writing your own affirmation are:
1. In present tense. “I am healthy” vs “I will be healthy” or “I want to be healthy”. If you use the world like will, want, wish, hope and so on, this is what will be granted; you will continue to wish and want for something in the future.
2. Positive. “I am healthy” vs “I’m not sick”. The universe does not have a concept of a “not”. If you are saying “not sick”, the universe sees it as “sick”.
3. Personal. Affirmations must be for you, not someone else. We must respect the free will of others even if we disagree with their choices. Failure to respect free will of other will result in others disrespecting our own free will. “I am healthy” vs “John is healthy”.
4. Specific. Intention is everything. Be precise in what you want and take time to visualize yourself in this state. “My joints move freely” is more specific than “I feel good”.
5. Handwritten: handwriting in an ideomotor activity that connects the body and the mind. When we write something down, especially using a cursive script, we open the gateway to our subconscious mind, thereby increasing the effectiveness of the affirmation.
How to practice your affirmations for maximum results.
Here’s the step by step process.
1. Make sure your affirmation is written out by hand, I talked about the reason for this in a prior post.
2. Place your handwritten affirmation in a visible place where you will see it often. I like to have mine on my bathroom mirror so I see it whenever I brush my teeth. Some other good places are: the refrigerator, office wall, dresser or nightstand. Basically, put it in a place where you will see it often. You can also carry a copy with you in your wallet or pocket.
3. The best time to practice your affirmation is in the morning and right before sleep. There’s a reason for this, I’ll talk about it in the upcoming post. However, you can also practice it throughout the day.
4. Set an alarm on your phone to remind you to practice your affirmation.
5. Meditate on the affirmation. It does not need to take a long time, even 30 seconds will be effective. Again, do at least in the morning and right before bed and optionally throughout the day.
6. Here’s how to do the affirmation meditation: Close your eyes, repeat the affirmation 3 times and then spend 30 seconds to five minutes visualizing yourself having reached your goal.
Be as detailed as possible and use your creativity. Imagine: what are you going to do when you reach the goal, what are you going to look like, what will you say, what will you be feeling, where will you be, etc… In other words, imagine that you have reached the goal set in your affirmation and then visualize your life at that moment.
For example, if your goal is to improve your sleep, visualize yourself falling asleep quickly and easily, staying asleep the whole night and then waking up refreshed and full of energy. Feel the emotion, what is it like to sleep well, how does it feel to wake up refreshed? How does it feel to be alert, happy, rested?
7. Repeat for 21 days and then reevaluate.
If the affirmation worked, great, continue doing it or write a new one.
If it did not, look inside yourself. Did you do your affirmation work honestly and diligently? Did the affirmation fail completely or partially or perhaps it took you in an unexpected direction? What worked? What did not? Why? Was your affirmation specific enough or too specific. Was there resistance on your part, if so why? Did you actually want to achieve what you have set out to do? Sometimes we think we want something but we actually do not.
Make appropriate corrections, forgive yourself and try it again. Don’t underestimate the power of the “fake it till you make it” approach. Keep practicing, keep fine-tuning it, keep working on yourself and all will come.
8. That’s about it. So many words to describe a fairly simple process.
It would not be right to talk about affirmations without mentioning Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life.”
In this book, Ms. Hay explains how limiting beliefs and ideas are often the cause of illness, and shows how you can change your thinking – and improve the quality of your life.
If you have not read this book, I highly recommend you read it. This book is an equivalent of the Bible when it comes to personal growth, mindfulness and healing. It’s an easy read and for many people it has served as the first step on their personal growth journey.
I feel we must￼ thank Louise Hay for much more than this book. She is one of the reasons we are in this group today and are able to talk about mindfulness and spirituality openly.
She brought these subjects out of the periphery into everyday life. Because of her work, our society has come to accept mindfulness and spirituality as valid and relevant.
In 1984 she started Hay House, which is now the largest publisher of self-help, inspirational and transformational books and products.
As a result, we are now able to talk about these subjects openly, respectfully and without fearing to be ridiculed by the general public.