Why do our spiritual abilities get blocked?
Think of our conscious mind as the ship captain and the unconscious mind as the crew. The captain calls out orders, the crew usually complies and so the ship moves in the direction set by the captain. But sometimes the crew starts a mutiny. Disregarding their captain’s orders, they take the ship in a different direction. The same often happens to us. Consciously we decide to make a change, to heal to grow. We embark on this process and then suddenly find ourselves reverting back to the old way. This is because subconsciously we have beliefs and fears that are incongruent with our conscious wants. Just like the crew who rebelled against their captain taking the ship in another direction, our subconscious blocks us from achieving that which we had set out to do.
It is important to identify the blocks we have to spiritual growth so that way we can work on healing them. After all, if we do not know what is blocking us, how can we work on it? I love the quote from GI Joe cartoon: “Knowledge is half the battle”. It truly is. And sometimes all it takes to release a block is to acknowledge it.
Fear. This is a biggie. What if I spend all this time and money on meditation, yoga, Reiki and then nothing happens? Or what if I do not have what it takes to grow spiritually? Fear is an even bigger factor when it comes to success. What if learn how to use my intuition but then have no control over what I do with this knowledge? What if I am not ready for the responsibility? Or what if I learn how to see the truth about myself but do not like what I see? Who am I to embark on such a journey? These are all valid concerns that must be addressed at some time during your growth. However, in the beginning, just acknowledging your fears will make a big impact.
Religion and upbringing. If you were brought up in a strict religions setting or have a strong connection to your religions group, then embarking on your own personal journey, one without the approval of your tribe can seem almost like heresy. The journey of self-growth often requires that you leave your tribe at least initially, this can be hard.
Clinging to a word – Semantics. If you grew up in a certain religion or culture, chances are that some words or concepts were ingrained into you deeply. For example, the word “angel” is often associated with a specific religion. For those who are non-religious or belong to different religions, the words, “connecting with angels” may seem off putting because “angels” represent another religion. A good question to ask yourself is: does one religion have a monopoly on angels to the point that unless I subscribe to that religion angles cannot exist for me? Words carry meaning that we put into them. Don’t get hung up on semantics. If you are bothered by the word “angel”, use “unseen friend”. If you are bothered by “altar”, use “sacred space”. Meditation is taught in many large corporation under the title of “mindfulness”. If a particular word bothers you because you have an association to that word, either make a new association or use a different word.
Social conditioning. If you heard something enough time, chances are you will being to believe it. “In our family we do not communicate with spirits.” “All people who communicate with the deceased are charlatans or wackos.” Or “Meditation is an Eastern Religion. ” Ask yourself, if you embark on your spiritual growth, will you become ostracized or made fun by your friends, relatives, family? And if so, how much will that bother you?
Beliefs about yourself. I am a disorganized person or a procrastinator. I am not intuitive, I do not have the talent for that type of thing. I’m too logical. I am not worthy of happiness. I don’t trust my intuition. Henry Ford said: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” If you believe that you will never start things or you believe that you will never finish things then you are correct. To quote Mr. Ford again, “The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t are both right. Which one are you?”
Pull to return to a comfortable habit. Ego is the knowledge of what makes you – you. Without an ego, we would not be able to tell ourselves apart from each other. Ego is what makes us individual human beings. Ego is not a bad thing and in its highest form it can be healthy and useful. In its negative or dark form, it will put you in the state of fear, anger, shame. When operating from an angry or fearful space, our intuitive centers become shutdown. One way to think about ego is this: ego is limited, while love and spirit are limitless. The ego’s biggest job is to protect us. It will use any means necessary to do what it deems effective in keeping us safe.
Our ego does not like change, as change represents the unknown. As far as our ego is concerned, unknowns have the potential to harm us. Therefore as soon as the ego sees change, it will do its best to revert us back to the old ways.
I had a client who came to me for smoking cessation. We were making excellent progress, she went from a pack a day to just a few cigarettes without the feeling of withdrawal. She was very pleased, as she was dropping her smoking habit, her life began changing. Then suddenly, she stopped coming. She was not ready for the change, she wanted to stop smoking, yet keep everything the same. This is not possible and so she returned to her old, comfortable habit.
Chaos is fun. Let’s be honest. Do you enjoy chaos? Do you like the adrenaline that comes from stress? Often, we put ourselves in stressful situations because they make us feel important, needed and they take our mind away from what’s really bothering us.
Overthinking. Ego hates changes, even those that are good for us. Ego is very good at creating mind chatter, allowing no space between thoughts, preventing us from relaxing, and making meditation nearly impossible.
Complacency as in “so far I’ve been making my life work”. I may not be the happiest person in the world but I am OK. This goes along the same “change is scary” line.
Trauma in this life or in a past life. Have you been made fun of because of your abilities? Have you had to shut off your intuition because feeling things was too painful?
Impatience. Your life will change, the change will happen quickly or slowly. It may be a positive change or it may be a painful change that needs to happen in order for your growth to proceed. Just remember, everything happens in perfect time. You will get to where you need to go. Be patient and enjoy the ride.
Not putting in the time to practice. Think back to how you became successful at something, either school, sport, hobby or a career. Chances are that you did not wake up one morning and miraculously become a champion. Most likely you devoted some time and effort to your success. Same goes for your spiritual growth. Wanting it is not enough. You must put in the time to learn and practice. Daily.
Expectation. How do you expect to connect to your unseen friend or guide? So you expect thunder and lightning followed by a booming Morgan Freeman voice telling you to “take the side street instead of the highways when going to work next Thursday”? Do you expect your life to change with minimal involvement on your part? If you expect things to happen in the way that you imagine they should happen, you will be disappointed. All I look for in my journey is whether I have more wisdom and peace today than I did yesterday. For me, when it comes to miracles the smaller the package seems the more impact it’s going to make. Set your intention then let go of expectations.
Embarking on a spiritual path requires you to look into yourself deeply, to acknowledge your personal truths, to ask yourself hard questions and to be vulnerable with yourself. It may not be easy, especially at first they the benefit is well worth the effort.
Here are some of the things you can start doing right now to help you maintain your spiritual growth.
Maintain a continuous practice of meditation. Meditation can be easy and fun. Find a class you enjoy or get a recorded meditation and listen to it nightly.
Surround yourself with those who support you. Have clear and clean partnerships, friendships, relationships that expand your soul.
Own your energy system. Do not allow others to pull you into their drama. At the same time, do not judge other people for they are responsible for their own path.
Follow your intuition and guidance. How can you tell if your intuition is clear? Easy, if it feels fearful, judgmental, angry, shameful, etc… then it is your ego talking. Ask for the Ego to step aside and invite in your Spirit. Remember, Ego constraints, Spirit expands. When truly connected with spirit you will feel love expansion, freedom.
Keep going. Life happens, distractions, setbacks, disappointments will happen. Do not let them distract you from your path.